We have all these unspoken rules about love and relationships. Things that we think are common sense, and things that we're taught when we're younger or learn through different experiences we have with different people. And I never really see anyone question them, I never see anyone really break away from what, collectively, we think is the "normal" behavior and/or expectations of being in a relationship or being in love.
I read something recently and it said "If they don't chase you when you walk away, keep walking." and before that I read "Don't chase after anyone". I read those two things and I realized that subconsciously I had turned them into rules, I had turned them into guidelines. I never thought to question, that if that moment ever comes again, how will I know which one to follow? Will I feel conflicted about chasing after them or letting them walk away? I allowed myself to ponder these questions and I came up with on simple answer.
DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT FOR YOU, DO WHAT IS GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.
I refuse to allow the rules, regulations, and expectations of what the collective thinks is right and normal, have a hold on me or my relationships. The older I get, the more I start to realize that I shouldn't be afraid to be honest not only with myself, but to those around me, about how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking, without being worried about what anyone else is going to think. Sure, we're all afraid of being judged, we're all afraid of being criticized, but why should that stop us from saying exactly what we mean? Why should we let that hinder us from having healthy and happy relationships.
So if you're sick of following society's norm, if you're tired of being caught between your happiness and what everyone else would think, I implore you to break free of that mindset. Start doing things for yourself, start doing things to make yourself happy, because it's true what they say, the ones who mind don't matter, and the ones that matter don't mind. The people that truly care about you, your happiness and your well-being, will support you, not judge you.
